She’s Got This, You Got This

Wealthiher’s Global Summit guest speaker AngelaMezzetti

She’s Got This, You Got This

Are you one of those who is better at giving advice than following it? I hate to admit it but I am. I have been working in the communications business for years and have done live TV and radio and also weekly podcasts. So when I was asked to moderate a panel for Wealthiher’s Global Summit ‘She’s Got This’, on Leading with Impact for women, I surprised myself that my immediate reflex was one of mild terror. I think it was the word ‘Global’ that did it. One of my ‘go to’ pieces of communications advice to others, especially women, is ‘always say yes to invitations to speak‘ just say Yes, hang up and then panic. Those opportunities do not come every day. I knew I was experiencing that sense of dread which I hadn’t felt for a while. I hadn’t done anything Global before so I had to do a serious bit of self-talk to gear myself up for it. Glad to say I eventually took a long breath, said yes, trusted that they knew what they were doing by asking me in the first place and then started to prepare.

Authentic You
When people are asked to take part in panels or to do an interview on radio, TV or a podcast, they can be filled with anxiety and with dread, so much so that they think ‘this isn’t worth it’. Their first thought often is ‘well I know someone else who would be better than me’. This happens to men as well as women, but seemingly women are more likely to say ‘no’ initially to an invitation and for a variety of reasons. At a ‘Women On Air’ event a few years ago the head of news in RTE at the time, said they were committed to getting more women experts on news and current affairs programmes but that sometimes it was an uphill battle. He said even when they called up expert women to comment on an area of their expertise, the woman was reluctant to say yes initially, citing everything from childcare issues or a need to get their hair done or deferring to a male colleague. Fear and anxiety too might often have been in there but it would not be acknowledged upfront even to the person themselves. He went on to say that when they call on a male expert, the response tends to go more like, ‘yes sure, what time do you want me there and what is the topic’. There is nothing wrong with this response but the difference in the typical reaction of men and women often reflects the way women and girls are raised. Men and boys are used to pitching, trying and trying again. Women and girls are raised to wait to be asked, and to not seem to be ‘too keen’. For both men and women though, there are fears about performing in public that may be deep seated and rooted in an earlier ‘traumatic experience’.

Common Fears
The fears list can be a long one, but usually includes the following in the mix;

‘I don’t know enough’, ‘I will make a mistake on live radio’, ‘my colleagues will think ‘who does she think she is’’, ‘I have a terrible voice’ or ‘I hate the sound of my own voice’, ‘I would be too nervous’, or ‘I did one of these before and the social media attacks I got were vicious’. These are fears and usually not grounded in reality. If you are asked to do an interview it is usually because the person has done their research and believes you are the right person so trust them and park the nerves. If you answer ‘no’ you leave the field to others who may not know as much as you. Another interviewee may even have  an agenda which would not necessarily accord with your values. Your fears often surface to try to protect you from a feeling that is no longer valid.

Make A List
The advice I give is to take a long hard look at your list, write it down and think of the flipside, about what is on the plus side.

  • Think about things like who can I help by explaining an aspect of my knowledge that there may be confusion around.
  • Value your voice as a powerful tool that can change lives.
  • Consider that there needs to be ‘more voices like mine’ heard on air.
  • I can be a role model for the lack of diversity I see on TV and hear on radio.
  • This will add to my skill set and my colleagues will be proud to say they work with me and that I gave our side of the story or that missing piece of information.
  • Best of all my family will be so proud of me.

Welcome the Buzz
This is easier said than done I know, but when you decide to say yes to those invites and to feel the fear and do it anyway, you will get the courage and support you need, maybe even a bit of a buzz. You do have to trust yourself. You do have to listen to that little voice, your inner protector that is warning you about all of the things that could go wrong, but you have to make that a two way conversation in your head. You have to think ‘I hear you protector voice, but that was then, this is now and I GOT THIS.

The panel I had the pleasure to moderate on Leading With Impact went out on the Global Summit organised by Wealthiher on aThursday afternoon. All went really well. I got to talk with and hear from Gabrielle Branson, Deputy CEO, Kleinwort Hambros, Nancy Curtin, CIO Alvarium Investments and Helen Jones, Partner, BDO LLP and they are all fantastic with amazing insights into the new reality of working from home and managing all the juggling.

‘Saucy Mistress Boldface’

‘Saucy Mistress Boldface’ Lyric Feature Easter Sunday 6pm RTE Lyric fm 4th April 2021

Dr Jane Maxwell was giving a talk in Trinity in 2019 entitled ‘Dear Giddy Brat’ to Friends of the Library and Trinity Women Graduates. It was about a very precious collection of letters held in the college library which are a unique Georgian window into life in Ireland in the 1740s and 50s. These letters were written by the Church Of Ireland Bishop of Elphin, Edward Synge to his only surviving child of six children, a teenage daughter Alicia. His wife Jane Curtis had also died, so there were just the two of them when the letters were written and they chart her growth to womanhood.

This daughter Alicia was very precious and the letters illustrate a deep and affectionate relationship between father and daughter which is unexpected from a Church of Ireland high ranking Bishop. There is much teasing and banter between them. His affection for her trips off every page. He calls he Dear Miss Slyboots, his little bee, Dear Giddy Brat, Boldface, Huzzy, Saucy, Mistress and Mumper when she has toothache. He is totally preoccupied with her health and that of his servants. Given the earlier deaths of his wife and five children this is understandable and also accounts for his enthusiastic involvement with Mercers’ Hospital where he was on the board.

The BAI had put out a call for radio documentaries on women’s stories so this was a good story fit for the Lyric Feature. Little detail is known about women’s lives in 18th century Ireland so even though we don’t have the daughter’s letters, the bishop’s give an insight into Alicia’s life throughout her adolescence. Her education, what she thinks about, the books she is reading, what she ate and wore and her various ailments are revealed through the father’s side of the correspondence. He also talks about his servants and particularly his housekeeper Mrs Heap in Roscommon “who lies about all day pretending to darn.”

Witnessing History
The letters had been safely kept by the descendants of Alicia and later donated to Trinity College by Marie Louise Legg one her descendants. Every corner of the letters was written on, afterthoughts often written into the margins. There was zero waste of paper.

Jane Maxwell drew attention to the frequent corrections of spellings and grammar the bishop makes to Alicia. While pernickety, only for these, the letters probably would not have survived. Jane Maxwell explained that they were like a manual for his daughter on how to live her life, a business lesson, teaching her how to write letters, manage servants, to talk to her doctor about things like periods – which he does using French and how to run the house.

These letters were the Bishop’s only way of communicating with Alicia when he was living in Elphin, his diocese where he spent the summer months. We hear echoes of her voice and her opinions on things like child marriage, which was common at the time and they converse about gossip and the price of important things like chocolate. She had a live-in female companion Blandine Jourdan, a woman from a Huguenot family, who was employed to guide her and teach her French and she is frequently mentioned and addressed in the letters.

Handel’s Music and Mercer’s Hospital

Music was an important aspect of life for the bishop in his public and private life. Dr Triona O’Hanlon, violinist and musical historian, talks about this aspect in her contributions to the documentary. She discovered references to Bishop Synge in the part-books of musical concerts in the Mercer’s Hospital concert and administration records. Bishop Synge had corresponded with Handel who had spent time in Dublin and his concerts were an important source of funds for Mercers. Hospitals were always expensive to build and fund in Dublin.

In the summer of 2020 I finally got my hands on a copy of the letters printed in hardback from my local library. There are 221 letters written between 1746 and 1752 and there are almost as many orange ‘post-its’ on various pages where I discovered more quirky facts and descriptions. The biggest challenge was whittling all that down to 43 minutes. I dip into the book from time to time and never cease to discover something new. There are daily weather reports, gossip about engagements and marriages, and reports of who is ill with what and who has recovered.

At one point October 1752 the bishop writes to her with a really juicy bit of gossip about an older man of fifty, running off to Bristol with a fifteen year old, leaving a first wife and several children behind who were certain to be ruined.

Having learned that the man…
‘is drowned and his fair one with him, I don’t find anyone sorry, ‘ …he remarks.

Melons, Grapes Apricots in Pre Potato Ireland
What is stunning from what Dr Maxwell says, is that this is pre potato Ireland and yet they grew melons, apricots, grapes and pineapples in greenhouses in Kevin Street. Dr Maxwell says they grew exotic fruit not only to consume but to show how well off they were and for gift giving.

The Finery
There are references to fashions, hairstyles and buying fabric for Alicia’s new suit dress. Over the course of several letters he talks about buying her a new dress but nothing too flash, she was a Church of Ireland Bishop’s daughter after all. Alex Ward of the National Museum also talks in the documentary about the new fashion of silver and gold threads in fabric.

Giving A Voice to the Bishop
What really brings the letters to life are the way they are read by actor Simon Coury in the role of the bishop. The words committed to the page by a feather plume in 1750 could be the sentiment of any doting dad of his girl today. The language maybe a little archaic but the sentiment is as fresh and heartfelt as it would be today. He is always encouraging her to be herself, to improve her writing, not to be a slave to fashion and work on her self-esteem although he says it in his own way.

In one of the letters from May 29th 1752 as he draws to a close he writes:

“Learn then to be a better. You have opportunitys (sic) enough: and remember my old Aphorism. Many things are not done because thought not possible to do. If I thought you incapable of improvement I would not exhort you to fruitless attempts. God Bless you, and your companions. I am my Dear Girl – Yours & c Edw:Elphin”


Dear Giddy Brat/ Saucy Mistress Boldface is being broadcast on Sunday 4th April 2021 Easter Sunday at 6pm as the Lyric Feature on RTE Lyricfm

Produced and Presented by Angie Mezzetti
Sound editing Patrick Wall

Contributors Dr Jane Maxwell Assistant Librarian
Manuscripts & Archives
Research Collections
The Library of Trinity College Dublin
Dr Triona O’Hanlon Violinist and Music Historian
Alex Ward Keeper Art and Industrial National Museum of Ireland
Simon Coury Actor and voice of the Bishop of Elphin Edward Synge

RTE Lyric Feature – Mrs Finlay’s Broadwood Square Piano

RTE Lyric Feature – Produced by Angela Mezzetti

When Mrs. Findlay’s Broadwood Square Piano was being restored so too were the intriguing stories of the people it met along the way.

Nominated for a New York Radio Award ‘Mrs Findlay’s Broadwood Square Piano’ is a haunting love story that is revealed through the restoration of a piano. As the piano is lovingly restored from a bag of bones, so too is the love story from the pages of history and a long lost Sonata is unearthed in the process and given new life by concert pianist Inja Davidovic.

Bought in 1977 on a whim for fifty pounds in Ballycastle, Mrs. Findlay’s Broadwood Square Piano, a bockedy old instrument, unearths a story of forbidden romance in Glasgow between heiress Dorothea Findlay and John Donaldson her piano teacher, a legal battle over a dowry and the reunification of two families. As its strings and pedals are restored by Michael Hannon, so too is the history of a family and airing of a sonata by Donaldson inspired by Dorothea, that had lain dormant for years.

Donaldson’s several musical compositions for the piano were inspired by his romance with Dorothea whom he finally married without a dowry in 1820. His Sonata for the Piano Forte in G Major was published by Muzio Clementi Esq in 1822 and supposedly charts his romantic journey and love for his wife ‘the flighty Dorothea’. He later studied law and spent decades in courts claiming her portion of her family inheritance.


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Niamh is making a pledge to stop shoplifting and to turn her life around. She wants to devote more time to her comedy gigs and poetry performances. The documentary was devised and recorded by Angie Mezzetti and co produced by Ronan Kelly from the Doc On One team in RTE Radio.

The recording was two years in the making and it brings voices seldom heard to the airways. Niamh has a huge following on #Facebook for her comic live posts. She wants to carve out a new carer for herself in writing and performing her poetry and her comedy. She has had a colourful life which has had its fair share of heart break. Niamh is a survivor. She has come through drug addiction, years of shoplifting and had to surrender her son to care for a while during his early life. But she is turning her life around and the radio documentary ‘A New Niamh’ captures her life at this point of change.

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Michael Ferris aged 84 lost much of his hearing during the Suez crisis in 1956 but has the chance to have his hearing restored through the technical miracle of cochlear implant surgery.

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